Letters About Life

Book: Letters About Life

Date: Printed 2008

Letters About Life-CoverPersonal Note To The Reader

As far back as I can remember, I have had a deep fascination with God, human emotions and all things of a spiritual nature. As a result, I have spent the past twenty years or so of my life read ing and studying any thing and everything I could get my hands on about these subjects. The early and untimely death of first
my mother and then my husband con tribut ed to my desire to delve into the spiritual aspects of our nature. I have now come to think of my unquenchable thirst for knowledge and my desire to know God as a spiritual quest.
It goes without saying that the knowledge I have gained has added tremendously to my spiritual growth, as well as my overall growth as a human being. And even
though the growth process has been, a long, up and down, back and forth, and sometimes quite painful process, it has been well worth all of the extra effort that I have put into it, because the quality of my life has in creased immensely.
There is an old saying that goes: “when you’ve gained something positive, quite often, you would like to give something back.” This comes close to describing what I was feeling when I decid ed to write this book. Of course, I also wanted to see all of the knowledge I have gained from my many years of reading expressed in my own unique fashion. What better way to bring this about, I thought, than to write my own book?
I decided to write this book in the form of letters be cause this is what I found came most naturally to me. Since this book is about relation ships, human emotions and spirituality, I found that letters provided me with an easier way to tie all of these subjects together.
It was my intent to write a book that could be read in a variety of different ways, and could also serve a variety of different purposes. This is why I have covered the negative and the positive aspects of such a wide range of subject matter. I hope that as you read this book you will personally get out of it whatever it is that you need. I have no doubt that some of these letters will touch you personally.
Although these letters are fictitious, they do carry within them hints and messages of everyday real life experiences. I hope that as you read these letters, you will find them insightful, thought provoking, and that at least some of them will leave a lasting impression on your mind.
But I must say that there is one main point that I wanted to try to get across to most of my readers, which is why you will find this message as an on-going theme through out the course of this book.
My message to you, the reader, is that a part of God is inside of you. And the only way to lift yourself up and out of all of your emotional difficulties, with yourself, and with others, is to turn within so that you can heed the message of the soft and gentle voice of God that speaks to you from within. We are trying so hard to control ourselves from the outside, but the solutions to all of our problems lie within.
I believe that we are currently in the process of trying to make the transition from the outside to the inside, and this is reflected by all of the violence that we cur rently see in our society. Our turbulent society is at tempting to push us back into our selves so that we will rise above our ego natures, connect with our spiritual natures, and once again re-establish our divine and inner connection with God’s love. The kingdom of God lies within.

I also believe that to a certain extent, we are all prodigal sons and daughters who are lost, searching, and trying to find our way back home. And when we begin to realize that the treasure map that will lead us back to our father’s house lies within us, we will be just that much closer to the healing that God’s love will provide. This, in turn, will enable us to go out into the world with the knowledge and the message that God’s love is inside of us. I believe that this message will help to bring about the spiritual healing that our planet is so desperately starving for. I think of this book as my way of spreading that message. I am not trying to say some thing that has not been said before, I am merely saying it my way.

Oh, by the way, it is not my intent to step forward and try to present myself as some sort of an expert, because an expert I am not. And since I am still growing, learning and experiencing my trials and tribulations just like you are, quite often I have to stop and remind my self to do the same thing that I am urging you to do. To turn within.


So, if I manage to get this point across to you in any measurable way that will help to enhance the quality of your life, then I feel that you and I have made a spiritual connection. And I will rest assured just knowing that my book has served its purpose for you, for myself, and for God. 

I now salute you on your spiritual journey back home!


Jewell Sinclaire


Table of Contents
Acknowledgements ……………………………………………………….. v
Personal Note To Reader ………………………………………………… vii
Introductory Letter ………………………………………………………19
Personal Letters:
On The Value Of Reading ……………………………………………….22
On The Fear Of Falling In Love Again …………………………………..24
To My Mate:
An Attempt To Motivate A Lazy Man ……………………………………26
Dear Mr. Politician ……………………………………………………..28
On Having My Cake And Eating It Too …………………………………31
To My Child:
On The Dangers Of Drugs ………………………………………………34
Of Comfort:
God W ill W alk Y ou Through Y our Pain ………………………………….37
On Monogomy …………………………………………………………..38
To My Sex Partner:
I Went And Had Myself Tested ………………………………………….40
To An Offi cer Of The Law:
Good Cops Vs. Bad Cops …………………………………………………42
A Mother’s Perspective:
On Sending Her Son To War …………………………………………….44
On Promiscuity ………………………………………………………….46

To My Wife:
On The Need To Protect Our Diminishing Sex Life. ……………………..48
To Mainstream Society:
I Am Homeless …………………………………………………………..50
On The Importance Of Loving Yourself First …………………………….52
On The Ineffectiveness Of Your Legal System ……………………………54
To A Homophobic ……………………………………………………….56
On The Pros And Cons Of Aging …………………………………………57
On Being Self Conscious About Your Weight ……………………………59
To My Child:
Let’s Stay Close ………………………………………………………….60
To My Husband:
Guns Vs. Children ……………………………………………………….61
Tribute To My Mother, A Single Parent ………………………………….63
To My Wife:
On Communication And The Importance Of Listening …………………64
On Trust …………………………………………………………………66
To My Son:
A Gang Member …………………………………………………………67
On The Dangers Of Surfi ng The Internet ……………………………….69
Yes! You Are My Baby’s Father …………………………………………..71
On The Pain Of Being Physically Unattractive …………………………73
You Said You Would Call ………………………………………………..75
On Supporting Me With My Weight Problem …………………………..79

On The Consequences Of Trying Too Hard To Please Your Man…………. 81
On The Responsibility Of Becoming A Teenage Mother………………….83
On Working Through Our Differences …………………………………..85
To A Beautiful Child Of God, On Self Esteem …………………………..86
On Power Struggles:
Letting Go Of The Need To Be Right …………………………………… 88
On Burning Your Bridges:
Anatomy Of A Woman Scorned ………………………………………….90
From Husband To Wife:
A Different Slant On Domestic Violence ………………………………..92
To The Reporter Who Ruined My Reputation:
On The Faltering Media …………………………………………………95
On The Karmic Law Of Cause And Effect ……………………………….98
To An Abusive Supervisor ……………………………………………… 100
To My Ex-Fiancé: The Man
Who Broke My Heart And Drained My Bank Account ……………….. 103
Let’s Not Argue In Front Of The Children ……………………………. 107
To A Lady Of The Streets ……………………………………………… 108
On Our Inability To Have A Baby …………………………………….. 110
You Are Worthy ……………………………………………………….. 112
The Emancipation Of A Battered Woman ……………………………. 113
On Our Inability To Communicate ……………………………………. 115
Is Our Sex Life Over? ………………………………………………….. 117

To My Stepmother …………………………………………………….. 118
On Personal Hygiene …………………………………………………. 119
To End Our Long Term Relationship ………………………………….. 120
On The Recognition Of God’s Blessings ………………………………. 122
To My Child:
On Becoming The Mother You Deserve ……………………………….. 123
To My Absentee Mom …………………………………………………. 125
Stop Trying To Control Me…………………………………………….. 126
Let’s Not Argue In Public ……………………………………………… 127
On Discernment, And Setting Your Own Personal
Standards …………………………………………………………….. 128
On Child Support …………………………………………………….. 130
From An Adult Child Of An Alcoholic ………………………………… 131
From An Incest Survivor ………………………………………………. 133
On Suicide ……………………………………………………………. 135
On Bridging The Gap Between Me And My Child ……………………. 137
On The Importance Of Physical Attractiveness In Our
Relationship ………………………………………………………….. 139
To His Wife:
Grieving In The Background (In Memory Of P.R.) …………………… 141
To A Drunk Driver (In Memory Of My Daughter) ……………………. 143
To My Ex-Boyfriend:
On Reviving An Old Relationship ……………………………………. 145

On The Upside Of Downsizing ……………………………………….. 147
On Child Abuse ……………………………………………………….. 149
To My Husband:
A Potential Workaholic ……………………………………………….. 151
On The Importance Of Respecting My Privacy ……………………….. 153
I Love You, But I Don’t Want To Get Married ………………………… 154
On Teenage Sex:
Just Say No……………………………………………………………. 155
On The Challenge Of Creating A Step Family ……………………….. 157
On The Importance Of Keeping Your Commitments ………………….. 159
On The Use Of Profanity ……………………………………………… 160
To A Shyster:
On Cheating Me Out Of My Money ………………………………….. 161
On God’s Healing Power ……………………………………………… 163
On Leaving The Welfare System ………………………………………. 165
From Your Secret Admirer:
On My Spiritual Attraction ToYou ……………………………………. 167
In Memory Of My Daughter:
Stop The V iolence …………………………………………………….. 169
To My Stepson With Love …………………………………………….. 171
To An Unfaithful Husband:
On Infi delity ………………………………………………………….. 173
On Letting My Light Shine Brightly:
Developing My Spiritual Growth …………………………………….. 175

On Valuing My Virginity ……………………………………………… 177
Anatomy Of A One-Sided Relationship ………………………………. 179
To An Addict: On Your Drug Addiction ……………………………….. 181
On Taking A Good Man For Granted ………………………………….. 183
On Having Sex With You Too Soon ……………………………………. 185
On Establishing Your Relationships On Looks Alone …………………. 187
When You Lost Weight, I Lost You …………………………………….. 189
From Poverty To Prosperity ……………………………………………. 191
To My Husband:
On Your Affair, Looking The Other Way ………………………………. 194
On Resolving Family Confl ict ………………………………………… 196
To My Mate:
On Standing Up For Myself ………………………………………….. 198
A Higher Perspective On Racism ……………………………………… 200
A Message To A Child Molester ………………………………………… 202
To My Husband:
On Bisexuality ………………………………………………………… 206
A Message To My Son, From The Penitentiary ………………………… 208
To My Parents: On The Pressures Of Being Your Most
Responsible Adult Child ………………………………………………. 211
A Rude Awakening: On W anting TheW oman Y ou Don’t Have ……….. 213
To My New Husband:
On Grieving For Your First Wife ………………………………………. 214

To My Son’s Mentor:
On Being A Positive Infl uence ………………………………………… 216
To My Lover:
I Gave Up Everything For You ………………………………………… 218
Pregnancy Vs. Drugs ………………………………………………….. 220
On Loving My Best Friend’s Wife …………………………………….. 223
To My Son-In-Law:
On Domestic Violence ………………………………………………… 225
On Discovering Your Own Uniqueness ……………………………….. 228
To A Gigolo:
On My Desperate Desire To Be Loved …………………………………. 230
From Your Guargian Angel:
Comfort During Your Time Of Disappointment ………………………. 233
To A Mother W ho Has Lost Her Son To A Senseless
Murder ……………………………………………………………….. 235
To Mom From Death Row. …………………………………………….. 238
A Special Message Between Fathers And Daughters:
On How To Stay Close ………………………………………………… 241
On The Deception Of A Transsexual …………………………………… 243
To My Soul Mate:
On The Transformational Power Of Our Love …………………………. 246
To Congratualate You On Your Sobriety ……………………………… 248
To The Opposing Council …………………………………………….. 250
On Being A Bad Infl uence In Your Life ……………………………….. 253

To My Brother-In-Law:
A Sister’s Betrayal …………………………………………………… .255
To A VIP ……………………………………………………………….257
To My Wife:
I Want To Die. Will You Help Me?
Doctor Assisted Suicide ………………………………………………..259
From A Younger Man To An Older Woman ……………………………. 261
On Losing Him To You, But Gaining Something So
Much More Valuable ………………………………………………….. 263
To The Lady Who Has Been Trying To Come On To Me:
I Am Already Spoken For ……………………………………………… 265
To The Jury:
Anatomy Of An Innocent Man ………………………………………… 267
To Mom And Dad:
On The Teachings Of True Love ……………………………………….. 270
To The Love Of My Life:
On My Need To Stay In Control ………………………………………. 272
To Say Goodbye:
I’m Still In Love With Her ……………………………………………. 274
To End A Relationship With An Incarcerated Boyfriend ……………… 277
On The V alue Of A Smile ……………………………………………… 279

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